We gain experiences from many sources. But is it always healthy? Why gaining experience is not as good as we think? Let’s find out.
Today, I am going to tell you a short story about a girl who was ditzy and scatterbrained with a passion for gaining experiences. She had her world in her mind and was quite eccentric.
But, slowly over time, she became restless, sad, and anxious. A lot of times, things didn’t seem rational, and life turned out to be a big mess to her. She couldn’t handle the brutal reality. Ultimately, she left the world along with her devastating mind that took her life.
Now, I know it is a sad story and does not fit for the introductory section, but to be honest, I don’t think we realize the implications of the overstimulated mind on our lives.
That is what happened with the girl who couldn’t benefit anything from that mind in the end. However, she did experience some things after which her outlook towards life took a dark turn.
So, “What did she gain?”
Experiences, as I have mentioned before. The double-edged sword that can build or destroy a worldview in seconds.
But, “How are experiences bad for us? Don’t they help us?”
They do. But when we stimulate our minds too much, it becomes a nightmare that we are afraid to witness. The irony is we overstimulate our minds now and then.
So, let us discuss why gaining experience is not as good as we think.
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How experiences influence important aspects of life?
Experiences have one of the most important roles in our lives. Whether in our career or relationships, experiences make us or break us with a lot to teach about managing things in our life.
Yet, we are unaware of many aspects. It is better to say that most people do not know how experiences influence significant things in life or just have a vague idea about it.
The mystery behind experiences has something to do with the stimulation of brain activities. It is fruitless to believe that we see the world as just a culmination of experiences. Instead, it is a sum of subjective ones to form the universal reality.
But, “Is it possible to experience things beyond the mental limits?”
Well, that we will leave to be discussed in the next section.
For now, let’s find out the ways experiences influence important things in life.
1. Experiences make us an eternal seeker of reality:
Reality has many sides to it. It is impossible to live on just one idea and spend the rest of your life believing it as the only truth you know. The experiences help us to get past the singular reality and embrace the multiples ones.
However, they also make us a seeker of cause. Most importantly, the seeker of reality, who wants to find out the reason behind everything that ever goes in his mind and his neverending thirst.
Therefore, experiences make us eternal seekers of reality with a neverending thirst for experiencing new things.
2. Experiences influence our subjective judgments:
Experiences do not come from absorbing reality as it is. An additional brain processing is essential to convert knowledge to experiences. Objective judgments have little to do with subjective opinions.
However, experiences have an important role to play in subjective judgments, such as the feeling and thinking of an individual. Now, these judgments indirectly shape our relationships and career and help us see possibilities everywhere.
Hence, experiences influence our subjective judgments, such as feeling and thinking to make sense of reality.
3. Experiences form a creative and imaginative personality:
Creativity and imagination are not just the result of curiosity and versatility, but also exploring and experiencing the quirky and awkward truths of reality with an open mind.
Creativity is like a river flowing into the hemispheres of the brain and stimulating the intelligence to make something new and original. The imagination is the source of creativity and expression. Without it, life is just a desert, arid, and desolate.
Therefore, experiences help create a creative and imaginative personality with maturity and wisdom at every step.
So, these are the three ways experiences influence the deepest reality of our thoughts.
But, “Is it good to gain experiences all the time? Or is there something wrong with it?”
Well, let’s find out in the next section why gaining experience is not as good as we think.
Why gaining experience is not as good as we think?
“Is it all good about gaining experiences?”
I doubt it.
According to what I have observed, the more you know about things, the more susceptible you are about them. It is surprising, but great knowledge also comes with great confusion.
In other words, when we overstimulate our minds with experiences, we become experience addicts, similar to drug addicts. It takes a toll on our seeking nature. We see possibilities everywhere but do not make decisions, and our life becomes an utter disappointment.
But, “How are experiences responsible for this? Isn’t it the human himself?”
Yes, it is. However, experiences amplify some negative traits which are responsible for this sad state of humanity.
So, here are 7 unexplored reasons why gaining experiences is not as good as we think.
1. Experiences overstimulate our thinking tendencies:
“Do you think experiences benefit our thinking tendencies?”
Well, the truth is that the experiences also hurt our thinking ability and do not help in relieving stress.
Think of these experiences like a drug or medicine that a person takes to escape the mundane and boring reality and live in wonder and amazement. It may seem like a good option, but it doesn’t help in the long run.
Ultimately, it leads to overstimulation of thinking, which brings us the image of a different reality, that is impractical and non-existent.
2. Experiences make us a slave to the negative side of intelligence:
“The negative side of intelligence?” What is that supposed to mean?”
Let’s assume that intelligence is all good with many things to admire about it. We are intelligent and in search of many different things that can excite or stimulate us.
Now, with intelligence, we realize the importance of many balanced views and learn to let go of polar perspectives. However, the possibilities are not practical. They do not exist. Without being sure of things, you can never be firm in anything.
Hence, experiences make us a slave of possibilities and the negative side of intelligence.
3. Experiences lower our confidence in ourselves:
It is difficult to accept, but confidence is related to the experiences we seek. The amount of confidence we have in ourselves has a lot to do with our attitude in seeking them.
However, as discussed in the previous point, it is difficult not to think about possibilities after gaining enough experience. We are so caught up in our problems that sticking with one seems impossible.
This makes us uncertain about various facets of life, and we lose confidence in things we already chose for ourselves.
4. Experiences enhance overanalysis:
Overanalysis is nothing but a futile and vain exercise we do to make sense of things in a complicated manner. Now, thinking too much over insignificant things brings us no good.
Besides, the more time you spend on overanalysis, the more doubtful and skeptical you are of people and situations. Always being in this observant mode makes us very monotonous and difficult to understand.
Hence, experiences make us over-analyze, and there is nothing good about it.
5. Experiences breeds uncertainty and indecisiveness:
Experiences are not good when it comes to making decisions. It doesn’t mean that experienced people are indecisive or something. But they do face difficulty making decisions in life.
Due to recognizing possibilities on both sides, they are very careful and observant of what situations have to offer. For this reason, they are often mediators than decision-makers.
However, without decisions, we cannot fix the outcome of our situations, and ultimately we succumb to the uncertainty.
6. Experiences do not help us act on things:
You might be wondering, “How do experiences negatively influence actions?”
Well, if you remember our previous points of overanalyzing and indecisiveness, then this point is just a by-product of them. Now, what happens is that when we are too caught up with our indecisiveness, we are unable to take action or do what we plan to do.
Our uncertainty and overanalyzing tendencies make it very difficult to take action because we are too worried about the consequences. If you are a planner, then things got worse.
Therefore, experiences do not help us act on things.
7. Lastly, experiences make us dissatisfied with a simple reality:
When we are busy gaining experiences, we are so dissatisfied with reality. In other words, we are not happy with the essential things, such as food, water, shelter, and clothing, and crave things beyond them.
Now overlooking these things does not help us in our lives. We just lose ourselves in the pursuit of excitement and stimulation. As I said before, the experience is a drug. The more we take it, the more we crave it.
When things no longer excite us, we become sad, depressed, and anxious. Ultimately, we do not see any point in living with simple things.
To sum up, this article doesn’t discourage you to gain experiences but tells you not to go out of your way to seek them. Let life throw situations at you and help you look for solutions with experiences.
But be careful. Do not lose yourself in the addiction of finding something new to learn and experience. Be practical and try to accept reality as it is.